Why Military Spouses Are Amazing

In honor of Military Spouse Appreciation Day, which was last week, and Military Appreciation Month, which is this whole month, I present this narrative about the Creation of the Military Wife which I’m sure many of you have read before.
I first came across it in 95 when hubs was at his MOS school at Fort Knox.  After we got married the FRG (I think that’s what it’s called in the Army) sent me a “welcome to the Army” packet.  Of course, hubs is a Marine, but that just shows that though we each have different words for the same thing, our experiences are as simliar and unique as each military spouse is.
This version has been slightly altered by Angela Caban who posted it on her Facebook page and credits Erma Bombeck for first writing it.  My own thoughts are posted below.
When God Created the Military Wife
When the Lord was creating a military wife He ran into His sixth day of overtime. An angel appeared and said, “You’re having a lot of trouble with this one. What’s wrong with the standard model?”The Lord replied, “Have you seen the specs on this order? It has to be completely independent but must always be sponsored to get on a military installation. It must have the qualities of both mother and father during deployments, be a perfect host to 4 or 40, handle emergencies without an instruction manual, cope with flu and moves all around the world, have a kiss that cures anything from a child’s bruised knee to a husband’s weary days, have the patience of a saint when waiting for its mate to come home and, have six pairs of hands.
“The angel shook her head slowly and said, “Six pairs of hands? No way.”
The Lord answered, “Don’t worry; we will make other military wives to help. Besides, it’s not the hands that are causing the problem, it’s the heart. It must swell with pride, sustain the ache of numerous separations while remaining true, beat soundly even when it feels too tired to do so, be large enough to say ‘I understand’ when it doesn’t, and say ‘I love you’, regardless.

“Lord,” said the angel, gently touching His sleeve. “Go to bed. You can finish it tomorrow.” “I can’t,” said the Lord. “I’m so close to creating something quite unique. Already it can heal itself when sick, on a moment’s notice it will willingly embrace and feed total strangers who have been stranded during a PCS move and it can wave goodbye to its husband understanding why he had to leave.”

The angel circled the model of the military wife very slowly. “It’s too soft,” she sighed.

“But tough,” the Lord said excitedly. “You cannot imagine what this being can do or endure.”

“Can it think?” asked the angel. “Can it think?! It can convert 1400 to 2 p.m.,” replied the Lord.

Finally the angel bent over and ran her finger across the cheek. “There’s a leak,” she said. “I told you that you were trying to put too much into this model.” It’s not a leak,” said the Lord. “It’s a tear.” “What’s it for?” asked the angel. “It’s for joy, sadness, pain, loneliness and pride.” “You’re a genius,” said the angel.

Looking at her somberly, the Lord replied, “I didn’t put it there.”

This essay sums up what we endure as military spouses.  Because we do all of this thousands of miles away from our families our fellow military spouses become our family.  We spend holidays together, worry together, complain together, drink together, and rejoice together.

On my street alone there are wives from all over the country and a few from outside the country and yet we’re a tribe.  Like Marines are bonded by their shared experiences so are we.  We have different beliefs, traits, personalities and ideals but we have a bond.  Some of us work, some of us don’t.  Some of us have kids, some of us have furbabies.  Some of us are guys.  Some are former active duty.  Some have only moved once or never, some have never endured a deployment, some have endured too many.  But our common link is that we love someone in uniform and often sacrifice much of ourselves to be a part of something bigger than any individual.  We EACH have our own story; I’d love to read yours, please consider sharing it in the comments section below or e-mailing me at jessica.tuck528@gmail.com

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  1. #1 by Sara McNaghten on 05/17/2011 - 6:41 AM

    I have read this before but get sentimental everytime I read it. I haven’t even had to deal with a deployment yet (coming up soon) So I can only imagine how it will be when I read it after I have had to cope with that!

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